Do you ever start emailing someone and they go nuts on you? Expect things like you have known them forever and will disclose all kinds of info right away????
Is it just me that wants to take their time and get to know someones heart first?????
Depends on the info they are asking for. I have to say that I am very demanding upfront. I have been through too much bullsh*t on here to play around for weeks in emails trying to get to know someone only to have their WIFE email me accusing me of playing around with her husband. Back when I was looking, I would email a few times, then ask for a number if it was not given yet. Information is just a way to ascertain whether or not someone you are talking to is serious or just playing games.
Depends on the info they are asking for. I have to say that I am very demanding upfront. I have been through too much bullsh*t on here to play around for weeks in emails trying to get to know someone only to have their WIFE email me accusing me of playing around with her husband. Back when I was looking, I would email a few times, then ask for a number if it was not given yet. Information is just a way to ascertain whether or not someone you are talking to is serious or just playing games.
As for the commitment after two emails, yeah, those are crazy people. I've met a few men like that myself. less...
For those of us that have been alone for a while or at that age where time feels like it is passing too fast...we do tend to walk up to the counter, slap our mug down and expect it to be filled - pronto ! I personally thought that being on a dating site was for people that had poor luck elsewhere and were at the end of their options, therefore they would be serious about spending siginfigant, quality time with someone and work towards that desired end result of bein more...
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For those of us that have been alone for a while or at that age where time feels like it is passing too fast...we do tend to walk up to the counter, slap our mug down and expect it to be filled - pronto ! I personally thought that being on a dating site was for people that had poor luck elsewhere and were at the end of their options, therefore they would be serious about spending siginfigant, quality time with someone and work towards that desired end result of being a couple, or fall in love, or get married or whatever. That is all what I thought it would be like.
Ok, I think I'm the first one to admit that I have a problem in this area. LOL :) I don't think I expect too much but I have a really bad habit of being too honest I think (give TMI too soon). It's just who I am. I'm very open and honst and I just automatically expect others to be the same. I lead with my heart and finding the right balance is difficult for me....but I am growing and evolving!
There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
It's OK to rush into things,sometimes,and OK to take things at a slower pace. But, YOU won't win any 'race' going slow!!!! And the Human Race has been running for some time now,speed up a little,and YOU might just catch up with the woman you havr been looking for...the woman we are all running after! I had better get a move on,because i can see you catching up with me,fast.Baz.
there is a time and a place for everything. although honesty between two people is necessary for a healthy relationship... there are some things that just don't need to be shared. we all have a past... and that's where some things belong. get to know the new person in your life, and share the things that you are comforable with at the appropriate times.
No!!! Dirk, it's not just you, I have experienced that type of situation myself. I think that now a days people are so desperate to find LOVE that they are willing to tell all right away and not take things slow. As for me, I'm an open book, but all my past comes with time. When people communicate slowly day by day it gives you time to understand, learn and actually care about the other person's feelings and what they have gone through. No one wants to be friends before lovers anymore, everyon more...
No!!! Dirk, it's not just you, I have experienced that type of situation myself. I think that now a days people are so desperate to find LOVE that they are willing to tell all right away and not take things slow. As for me, I'm an open book, but all my past comes with time. When people communicate slowly day by day it gives you time to understand, learn and actually care about the other person's feelings and what they have gone through. No one wants to be friends before lovers anymore, everyone seems to want that sexual satisfaction without any spiritual or mental connection. If I just wanted to get POPPED I'd be a hooker and making a hell of a lot more than I do now HA! HA! HA!. Anyway,don't feel like your the only one cause some folks still like it nice & slow...............I do. less...
