Oh GAWD! This is SO hard to put into words. So, I'm gonna take the easyw ay out. Bluegirl said it for me: "I think its a respect issue and also a trust issue. So many of us as women have been let down by our men so that we don't trust them to take care of us therefore we can't give them the power they want." So, there it is.--True
My first marriage was a power struggle from start to finish. He wanted it. I couldn't give it to him. I couldn't trust him to take care of my needs and the needs of our kids.
My relationship with my fiance has an oddly natural balance of power. It has had from the beginning. Its effortless and naturally flows back and forth depending on the issue at hand.
I think its a respect issue and also a trust issue. So many of us as women have been let down by our men so that we don't trust them to more...
My first marriage was a power struggle from start to finish. He wanted it. I couldn't give it to him. I couldn't trust him to take care of my needs and the needs of our kids.
My relationship with my fiance has an oddly natural balance of power. It has had from the beginning. Its effortless and naturally flows back and forth depending on the issue at hand.
I think its a respect issue and also a trust issue. So many of us as women have been let down by our men so that we don't trust them to take care of us therefore we can't give them the power they want.
I got very lucky this time around. I trust my fiance implicitly and therefore I don't need to have the power all the time and he trusts me as well so he actually hands over the power on many issues without any effort on my part. less...
Communication is always key. Trying to find out the desires/interests/goals of another. What their expectations are for a relationship compared to yours. For some it's more obvious with regard to what they are looking for upfront whereas for others, it can be something that comes up after the relationship starts. And if it's something we aren't familiar or comfortable with, we need to make sure we acknowledge that and talk to our partner so they understand we are trying to figure things out.
